Today I am thinking about how VITAL it is in these days to have a personal relationship with The Most High.
My mate and I have what I consider to be CHURCH on a whim. Every day, throughout the day. It is because we have invited the DIVINE spirit to live here with us. That is the benefit of my perception of "church".
I don't feel obligated to dress up, gas up and drive to a place where I think GOD lives so that I can pray, praise and/or fellowship. This is where I think most church going folks might find a problem with me. Nope...i am NOT interested in a church home. Nope...don't wanna join your church. Who is your Pastor? Do I know him? Why should I follow his teachings?
My church IS my home...and vice versa.
Why do I think church should be in the home? I think people's whole learning experience and spiritual education is depended on what that man/woman behind the pull pit spoon feeds them 1 - 2 times a week. I am not knocking church. I feel like church is a good "supplement" to your spiritual education. After all, would you live solely off chewable vitamins and mineral supplements? or would you eat real food and fill in the blanks with a supplement? That's what I feel church is.
Are you okay with your spirituality reaching a glass ceiling? Your pastor knows so much more than what he/she is telling you. That's because his message can only go so far, teaching so many people who are all on different spiritual levels. Have you studied YOURSELF to show yourself approved?
Why is the average person so comfortable putting their children and spouses' spiritual growth in the hands of someone else. A single human being behind the pulpit. A person who The Most High gives revelations to...just like you can get them yourself if you just stop and devote your attention to The Message...
Man...are you comfortable letting another man tell your family how they should behave spiritually? Is that not your responsibility as the leader of your household? You tell them, "go and listen to this man at the church. I can't tell you the right thing...I am not capable... I am not worthy."
What is the message you are sending to your children.
I know i'm pissing some people off with this. I'm not inclined to care much really. My purpose is to provoke thought. To encourage us to examine ourselves and why we do the things we do. Do we do things out of habit or tradition, or do we feel a true connection to the things we do?
Friday, August 24, 2012
Tuesday, May 29, 2012
The IMAGINARY Green Light / Friendly vs Flirtatious
Long overdue post.
This is a spin off of The Mysterious Green Light post.
I notice a lot of women fail to say "Thank you." When a man opens a door for them, fail to say, "hello." When a man speaks to them and fails to respond to a simple, "How are you?"
Although I have NEVER been so bold as to ignore someone's greeting or compliment, I do understand why we do that. I don't AGREE that you should, but I can RELATE.
Women often fear that a man will spark up a conversation or take a kind look, a compliment or greeting as "flirting" or "the GREEN LIGHT"! lol More often, than not, this is true. However, that does not excuse you from being polite. There are OFTEN times a man is either simply appreciating you as a woman, or doing what he was raised to do ---Being a gentleman. You can't assume WHY a person smiles at you, says hello, helps you with the door or your things. Understandably, you want to avoid any uncomfortable situations. However, my advice is BE AN ADULT and DEAL with it if it gets out of hand, out of line, or uncomfortable.
If the person continues on discussing something or soliciting something you do not want, it is JUST as simple to say, "thank you, but I am not interested." When complimented, APPRECIATE the fact that SOMEONE appreciates the way you look or the time you took to get yourself together for the day... it won't KILL you to smile or say thank you. And trust me, if you are strapped for time, a 2-second hello will not make or break you.
Often times, a man gets eye contact from a woman and assumes that she is interested in conversation or more. Sometimes a polite smile can appear to be flirtatious. I can't TELL you how many men swear that I'm flirting. I'm not, I'm just a friendly and polite woman. But because they get rejected so often, they have assumed this is the NORM for women, so anything else MUST mean she's interested. ummm, NO. You need a lot more than a look, smile or kind gesture to establish a person's intentions.
So, to sum ALL this up... You cannot ASS-ume you have the GREEN LIGHT because a person is kind, or cordial. That is annoying and frustrating...On the FLIP side, you should not ignore a person for being kind and cordial out of fear of being caught up in their assumption. And as HARD as it is for me to admit and internalize, we must remember that EVERY person that sees you, does NOT want you, honey. Get a grip!
Love and Light!
This is a spin off of The Mysterious Green Light post.
I notice a lot of women fail to say "Thank you." When a man opens a door for them, fail to say, "hello." When a man speaks to them and fails to respond to a simple, "How are you?"
Although I have NEVER been so bold as to ignore someone's greeting or compliment, I do understand why we do that. I don't AGREE that you should, but I can RELATE.
Women often fear that a man will spark up a conversation or take a kind look, a compliment or greeting as "flirting" or "the GREEN LIGHT"! lol More often, than not, this is true. However, that does not excuse you from being polite. There are OFTEN times a man is either simply appreciating you as a woman, or doing what he was raised to do ---Being a gentleman. You can't assume WHY a person smiles at you, says hello, helps you with the door or your things. Understandably, you want to avoid any uncomfortable situations. However, my advice is BE AN ADULT and DEAL with it if it gets out of hand, out of line, or uncomfortable.
If the person continues on discussing something or soliciting something you do not want, it is JUST as simple to say, "thank you, but I am not interested." When complimented, APPRECIATE the fact that SOMEONE appreciates the way you look or the time you took to get yourself together for the day... it won't KILL you to smile or say thank you. And trust me, if you are strapped for time, a 2-second hello will not make or break you.
Often times, a man gets eye contact from a woman and assumes that she is interested in conversation or more. Sometimes a polite smile can appear to be flirtatious. I can't TELL you how many men swear that I'm flirting. I'm not, I'm just a friendly and polite woman. But because they get rejected so often, they have assumed this is the NORM for women, so anything else MUST mean she's interested. ummm, NO. You need a lot more than a look, smile or kind gesture to establish a person's intentions.
So, to sum ALL this up... You cannot ASS-ume you have the GREEN LIGHT because a person is kind, or cordial. That is annoying and frustrating...On the FLIP side, you should not ignore a person for being kind and cordial out of fear of being caught up in their assumption. And as HARD as it is for me to admit and internalize, we must remember that EVERY person that sees you, does NOT want you, honey. Get a grip!
Love and Light!
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