The IMAGINARY Green Light / Friendly vs Flirtatious

Long overdue post. 


 This is a spin off of The Mysterious Green Light post. 


 I notice a lot of women fail to say "Thank you." When a man opens a door for them, fail to say, "hello." When a man speaks to them and fails to respond to a simple, "How are you?" 


 Although I have NEVER been so bold as to ignore someone's greeting or compliment, I do understand why we do that. I don't AGREE that you should, but I can RELATE. 


 Women often fear that a man will spark up a conversation or take a kind look, a compliment or greeting as "flirting" or "the GREEN LIGHT"! lol More often, than not, this is true. However, that does not excuse you from being polite. There are OFTEN times a man is either simply appreciating you as a woman, or doing what he was raised to do ---Being a gentleman. You can't assume WHY a person smiles at you, says hello, helps you with the door or your things. Understandably, you want to avoid any uncomfortable situations. However, my advice is BE AN ADULT and DEAL with it if it gets out of hand, out of line, or uncomfortable. 


 If the person continues on discussing something or soliciting something you do not want, it is JUST as simple to say, "thank you, but I am not interested." When complimented, APPRECIATE the fact that SOMEONE appreciates the way you look or the time you took to get yourself together for the day... it won't KILL you to smile or say thank you. And trust me, if you are strapped for time, a 2-second hello will not make or break you. 


 Often times, a man gets eye contact from a woman and assumes that she is interested in conversation or more. Sometimes a polite smile can appear to be flirtatious. I can't TELL you how many men swear that I'm flirting. I'm not, I'm just a friendly and polite woman. But because they get rejected so often, they have assumed this is the NORM for women, so anything else MUST mean she's interested. ummm, NO. You need a lot more than a look, smile or kind gesture to establish a person's intentions. 


 So, to sum ALL this up... You cannot ASS-ume you have the GREEN LIGHT because a person is kind, or cordial. That is annoying and frustrating...On the FLIP side, you should not ignore a person for being kind and cordial out of fear of being caught up in their assumption. And as HARD as it is for me to admit and internalize, we must remember that EVERY person that sees you, does NOT want you, honey. Get a grip!


Love and Light!